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For one [prostitute] who…sells herself to a lover, ten sell themselves to a husband. Arguably, Greg concrette the most hallowed institution of the Victorian age with the most reviled. The purpose of this essay is to explore the ificance hpusewives Victorian British culture of the analogy that Greg draws and so to examine the crucial and controversial intersection of love and economics in the cultural construction of marriage concrrete the Victorian middle class. This comparison of prostitution to marriage would undoubtedly have been edited out of most British periodicals in Indeed, although rescue homes and reformist usually evangelical tracts about prostitution were becoming increasingly common in the s, references to prostitution per se were rare in British periodicals before the s.
Although this definition may seem to be self-evident, nearly all Victorian tracts on prostitution included some version of it. Some hard-line religious reformers contended that any woman who had sex outside of wedlock was a prostitute, but most discussions of prostitution centered on the crucial exchange of money for peersonals.
Just as Greg took this definition one step further and included certain wives in his housewjves of women who used their sexuality for monetary gain, many Victorian social critics saw marriage and prostitution as similar because of their traditionally parallel economic underpinnings: Each institution was characterized by an exchange of the man's money or financial support for the woman's body or sexual availability. Before the Victorian period, Mary Wollstonecraft had expressed much the same view Greg was later to adopt.
In the s and s, legal reforms of marriage led to an explosion of writing on marriage in the Victorian periodical press. These articles range from learned legal treatises to frothy humor pieces, but they nearly all exhibit uneasiness about the economics of cooncrete. Yet these manifestations of a culture obsessed with love and marriage were reflective of complex social attitudes that were shifting to produce a new form of couplehood; such representations showed an ideal that the culture aspired to, rather than a mirror image of the culture as it was.
Examining a range of representations of Concree couples and couplehood makes clear that marriage was at the center of the Victorians' conception of their own culture, but such an investigation also reveals that the Victorians were not always happy with the ways in which marriage was practiced. During the Victorian period, the pegsonals classes in particular were sorting out, often contentiously, what it meant to be a part of a married couple.
Was marriage a social contract, an economic partnership, a personal relationship founded on love, a religious sacrament, or some combination of all four? It is no wonder that the system of marriage housewivees Victorian Britain often seems to have been houseiwves odds with itself in all its legal, social, economic, and ideological complexity. On houseeives one hand, houswives Victorian period was a time of great sentimentality about the romantic and companionate nature of marriage and the family; on the other hand, marriage was an economic and social contract that was often seen as a crucial building block of the Victorian polity.
The economic and contractual character of marriage, however, reflected the legal and the social development of the institution up to Victorian times. The question of when companionate marriage emerged as the norm for British families has been the subject of critical debate; although several influential scholars have placed this development in the eighteenth century, their views have been persuasively challenged.
Susan M. Okin demonstrates that changes in women's property law in the seventeenth century e. That the practice of establishing trusts under equity survived may perhaps be attributable to the desire of families to protect their daughters from unreliable or dishonest husbands rather than a desire for egalitarian marriages. Mary Houzewives Shanley's study Feminism, Marriage, and the Law in Victorian England— also challenges, though on different grounds, the view that companionate marriages had become the norm in less sentimentalized views of society.
She discusses the attitude of Personqls feminist reformers at midcentury:. When Victorian feminists began their crusade to change the laws regulating marriage, they explicitly and forcefully challenged what they regarded as society's sentimentalization of family life.
British law and legal opinion governing marriage further indicated the contractual and psrsonals nature of this Victorian institution. For marriage to become merely a contract of sexual use—or, more conccrete, for sexual relations to take the form of universal prostitution—would mark the political defeat of women as women. English marriage law has a rather convoluted history and derives from both earlier English common law and Catholic canonical law.
To complicate the matter further, various parts of Great Britain had different marriage laws for much of the Victorian period. For instance, the substance of Lord Hardwicke's Act housewivws sharply with Scottish law, which derived from medieval canonical law and under which either an unwitnessed verbal exchange of vows or a promise of marriage followed by consummation constituted a valid and legally binding persnoals contract. This requirement in housewivrs turn stood in contrast to Irish law, under which only parties of the same religion could be married.
Cobcrete discrepancies among these laws came under fire in the s because of their diverse effects on property and inheritance rights. The public debate about the rationalization of the marriage laws across Great Britain and in parts of the empire was prompted by the Yelverton case, which turned on the differing religions of the parties in an invalidated Irish marriage; the debate demonstrates that during the Victorian period marriage was regarded in law as a social and economic contract that underlay the system of property—and, by extension, the social order.
Although they had as their primary purpose the discussion of the discrepancy in marriage laws between different parts of Great Britain, to my mind the essays houwewives most interesting for their assumptions about the social and economic importance of marriage. The position of women within marriage was also becoming a housewiives of public debate in the s. The well-known case of Caroline Norton, who was denied access to her children and to her earnings as a writer by her estranged husband, highlights this inequity in the law.
Feminist literary criticism of Jane Eyre has frequently focused on Jane's anger and her attempts to gain emotional or psychological independence; it has too often overlooked how important her quest for economic independence is and how deeply her economic status affects her.
The tale of Jane's entrance into Rochester's house as a governess, the planned marriage that goes awry when Rochester is shown to be married already, and their eventual reunion is well known. Although Rochester's revelations of his sordid past life which included a collection of continental mistresses are perhaps less well remembered, Jane is more than once compared, and compares herself, to the European women who were formerly Rochester's kept mistresses.
Even when planning the wedding and fantasizing about the marriage, Jane worries about the possibility that she will be like them—economically dependent on Rochester, exchanging her sexual availability for Rochester's financial support—and that others including Rochester himself will conclude that she has married for money, sold herself to become Rochester's mistress.
The conviction that financial independence is an important marker of women's personal and subjective autonomy is evident when Rochester takes Jane shopping for wedding clothes before the failed wedding. I told him…that he might as well buy me a gold gown and a silver bonnet.
Jane's fear of being brightly dressed, then, stems from the contrast between the ificance of these new clothes and that of the accustomed and expected plainness of her dress as a governess. On Jane, the bright silks and satins would be inappropriate because of her class position though not, as Valverde's argument makes clear, to her new station after her marriage and would therefore indicate a lack of economic and sexual integrity. Here, Jane tries to negotiate two separate relationships between herself and Rochester: one as employee and employer, and another as wife and husband.
In other words, she is trying to do what was legally impossible for early Victorian women: to separate the financial and emotional sides of marriage in order to avoid a dependent position. Jane is very clear that what she is rejecting is not Rochester's love—not even his sexual attentions—but the exchange of his money for the loss of her autonomy. Jane's suggestion is deeply ironic. She could not be paid by Rochester if she were his wife, because he would, by law, be paying himself.
Still, she seems to think that the symbolic act of working for her keep would protect her from dependency and mistresshood in marriage. At the end of the discussion, she returns, finally, to the question of wardrobe: Mr. Rochester will not dress her, not even for her wedding. In the end, Jane marries Rochester not only because she loves him, but also because she has received a large inheritance from her uncle in Madeira, which enables her to live wherever and however she wants to.
It also shows that she has rejected the trap of losing her moral agency, which Amanda Anderson contends is the main marker of the sexually fallen woman in Victorian discourses of gender and sexuality. Her choice of words als to Rochester after his long search for a good mistress, in either sense of the word the idea that he cannot have her as an inferior.
The word, then, ceases to mean surrender of economic and sexual power over oneself and comes to ify within Jane Eyre if not within Victorian culture the independence and power of the novel's heroine.
That marriages of convenience—of finance rather than romance—were common is evinced by many Victorian texts. Dickens's novel is a wideranging indictment of the overvaluing of wealth and commerce in Victorian society, and the sections of the novel that deal with marriage undertaken for financial reasons form a large part of this critique. A particularly direct attack on mercenary marriage centers on the character of Edith, the second Mrs.
Dombey, who marries Mr. Dombey solely for his wealth. This language, though it might seem rather evasive to us, would to a Victorian reader have denoted a prostitute all too clearly. Victorian prostitutes tend to be shadowy figures in the literary and historical perxonals of this period, not least because of the periphrastic language that, for propriety's sake, was used to describe them.
The theme of marriage, romantic and economic, is one that Dickens was to work out continually in his novels after Dombey and Son ; in different ways, Little DorritGreat Expectationsand Our Mutual Friend all explore the economic trials of would-be couples through both major characters and subplots. The couple are among the most sordid and dishonest characters in a novel brimming over with dishonest schemers, and their desire to marry for money is at the heart of their portrayal.
Dickens consistently rejects the idea that marriages should be contracted for monetary gain—as indeed do most of the novelists who were his contemporaries. The periodical press—which began to look at the institution of marriage more critically in the s—presented a more ideologically complex picture. The s were the major decade of debate over the reform of marriage laws.
At issue were the economic effects of both the inconsistencies in marriage laws across the empire and the inequities peersonals husbands and wives. Furthermore, the liberalization of the law of divorce that took place with the Matrimonial Causes Act in provoked widespread and often slightly panicked reevaluation of the meaning and stability of marriage.
It has become a critical commonplace, for instance, to say that the rash of novels in the early s focusing on bigamy—notably Mary Elizabeth Braddon's Lady Audley's Secret and Amelia Edwards's Barbara's History —sprang from questions about the institution of marriage that arose with the new divorce law. Such novels also tend to comment on the economic ramifications of marriage—Lady Audley, for instance, marries and commits bigamy in a bid for husewives and high social station.
Bigamy is nearly always seen in such novels and in other Victorian discussions as a crime of property: It disrupts orderly inheritances and thus undermines the economic base and security of the upper classes. Anxious discussions of the economics of marriage also began to proliferate in the periodical press, particularly in the more popular journals; these avoided the legalistic approach taken by the serious reviews that debated the perdonals niceties of the Yelverton case doncrete the Royal Commission on Marriage, and instead took a lighter approach to the marriage market that nevertheless examined critically the very bases of that most basic Victorian institution.
Verses published in by the little-known Ralph A. The point of view shifts from that of the omniscient narrator, observing the wedding rather impassively, to that of a spurned lover—rejected, it becomes clear, because he is poor. In the final stanzas, he links his pain directly to the bride's decision to marry for money:. Not all of the writers in the periodical press, clncrete course, took Benson's view.
Whatever may be said to the contrary, it does cost a great deal of money to be a gentleman, and a great deal more to be a lady. It follows from all this, that the desire to keep up appearances is neither an empty nor a vulgar one, for the appearances so kept up cover substantial realities. This passage demonstrates the two key elements of Stephen's argument. First, he stipulates that the demands of living up to one's class position should forestall the desire to marry without money. Second, he argues that far from preventing or tainting a solidly loving marriage, the existence of plenty of money within marriage will solidify the partnership and indeed lead presonals increased love because the wife need not become a drudge and presumably produce a more economically and emotionally stable union.
The article shows that the debate over the mixing of love and economics was indeed a debate that is, that there was disagreement over the nature and meaning of marriage.
Moreover, it demonstrates that despite this disagreement, companionate marriage was becoming both more widespread and more widely accepted. The author's use of commodity culture as a parallel to the culture of romance is a slightly curious one, revealing housedives completely Victorian notions of love were underwritten by notions of economics.
The metaphor nevertheless underscores the growing sense that marriage should be governed by the free choice of the parties involved, provided that certain basic conditions are met. Austin goes on to contend that marriages made for monetary gain are not merely personally unfulfilling, but also detrimental to society. Can it be doubted that presonals girl will make a better wife to the man whom she prefers, than to the man whom she…obediently accepts?
I am marshaling the trifles, and showing that the sum and result of confrete is no small national matter. These arguments against mercenary marriages are in some ways like Victorian arguments against prostitution: that it undermines the home, spreading vice cpncrete misery first through the domestic sphere and then through it to the nation that rests on the domestic sphere.
The author, however, draws a more direct link between mercenary marriages and sexual irregularities, including prostitution; he argues that as young rich couples form, they will inevitably spend money on luxuries, and in so doing will make it seem as though a great deal of money is needed to marry at all. He contends that excess money in any given marriage. Housewivfs to Heaven it were! It will fructify most dolefully.
It will help to raise prsonals standard of living. It will so prevent many from marrying who ought to be married, and beggar many others who, having married on smaller means, cannot resist the awful temptation to compete with their richer neighbours. Preventing marriage, it will increase the of men who tempt, and of women who hhousewives tempted.
Concrefe the chain of causality here seems a bit tenuous, the link between marriages with an excess of money and a society with an excess of vice reveals much about the Victorian mind-set. This article arguably represents a point housewuves view that was deeply fearful of any excess believing that such would lead to sinbut it also seems that there is something particular and specific about this aversion to an excess of money within marriage.
She sits there like a Turkey merchant with her merchandise about her. This is Milly, my eldest born; she is not bright, but she is good, which is far better. The comparison to ballet dancers in particular implies that the women available for sale have, by their very salability, become something less than respectable.
Another lament by the author plays on the same words and images of prostitution that Jane Eyre had done some twenty years before:. Even the man who meets a pleasant comely girl in a ball-room every night of the season, may well pause before he commits himself irretrievably. He sees that she wears a preposterously long dress which costs ever so much a yard, that she carries a bouquet of rare exotics, that her jewels are worth a ransom. I might contrive to maintain a chimpanzee or a boa-constrictor; but a bird of paradise who spends 1,l.
This passage—at the end of the article—captures many of the ideological contradictions that the Victorians perceived in their system of marriage. This article—which is mainly about matrimonial advertisements the nineteenth-century equivalent of the personal —echoes the complaints Fraser's makes about mothers selling their daughters and criticizes girls who wish to marry for money:.
There are always managing mammas who are ready to part with their daughters to the highest bidder. To all such persons the matrimonial market is open. The outset of the article addresses more directly the ideological contradictions within marriage:. When Mr. Gamaliel Pickle had determined to commit matrimony, he made his proposals after a very mercantile fashion.
Some of us even say—and, what is still more remarkable, even think—that we approach the old knightly reverence for women. Every novel that the season produces has some of this knightly love-making in it. The modern essayists… hold by the same faith, and paint ecstatic pictures of the joys of true love, the romance of marriage, and the happiness of modern lovers. And their example is followed by the gushing leader-writers who expatiate in the daily press, and who gravely discuss in the dull season the propriety of marrying upon all sorts of fabulously-small incomes.
Yet…there are innumerable proof that by large s of persons marriage is regarded as the most commonplace and matter-of-fact business transaction in the world. It is difficult in the end to gauge the effect of this sort of cultural wishful thinking. Did the sort of representations I have described here lead to the ascendancy of love as a factor in choosing marriage partners?
Ultimately, the question of whether positive representations of companionate marriage led to a changing reality, or whether the changing realities of nineteenth-century marriage evoked new and different representations of marriage, becomes a bit like the question of the chicken and the egg. It is evident that a broad shift in the conception of marriage was under way in the nineteenth century and that this shift became more urgent and still broader as the Victorian period went on, erupting in the s with the debates and legal reforms I have discussed.
Clearly, the Victorian writers who grappled with the shifting nature of marriage were participating in a cultural ferment of which many of them were not even fully aware. The changes begun in the period under consideration here did not end, of course, with the s. On the contrary, changes in the social and economic position of women were only beginning. The Married Women's Property Act of allowed married women to keep and earn their own money, and not surprisingly, in the decades that followed, the educational and economic opportunities available to women expanded quickly.
These changes in the position of women contributed to the ever-changing nature of middle-class marriage, as it shifted from being an economic relationship of dependency to a meeting of equals, undertaken by choice and for companionship and love. Though this shift did not happen smoothly or flow chronologically—on the contrary, the story of the development of companionate marriage is one of fits and starts, advances offset by retrogression—it has, on the whole, continued through the twentieth century to produce the forms of marriage we know today.
Greg was able to publish his controversial views in the Westminster because its owner, W. Hickson, was, like Greg, a prominent radical; the magazine, which was founded by Jeremy Bentham and James Mill, had long had a reputation as the preeminent radicalphilosophical journal of its era. The Westminster Review's major articles on prostitution are reprinted in Keith Nield, ed. Redfield, This excerpt is taken from the essay on women and marriage that Harriet Taylor gave to her future husband, John Stuart Mill.
James T. The best summaries that I have seen of marriage law in nineteenth-century Great Britain have been in the s periodical press.
Joan Perkin is particularly clear on the ins and outs of coverture and provides a concfete comparison of the legal niceties of common law and equity, which provided concreet for married women. The basic difference between them is that trusts may be established for married women under equity, while under common law all property passed automatically to the husband. See Perkin, Women and Housewivws in Nineteenth-Century England Chicago: Lyceum Books,16—17, for a thumbnail sketch and chapters three and six for a more sustained discussion.
On coverture and reactions to it by Victorian feminists, see Shanley, particularly the introduction and chapter one. For a more theoretical discussion of coverture, based in contract theory, see Pateman, 90— and chapter six. Perhaps the best concentrated recent discussion of Norton's case is the third chapter of Poovey, but readings of the controversy surrounding the Norton marriage can also be found in Shanley, 22—27 and — Arlyn Diamond and Lee R.
Housewivfs Amherst: University of Massachusetts Press, Despite the relatively conservative implications of the inheritance plot, however, which catapults Jane to economic and social power, the novel retains a progressive stance toward sexual economics by ending with an equal marriage. Quoted in Walter E. Ralph A. The Wellesley Index notes that this attribution of the article is probable but not definite. Acton, William. Reprint of second edition. London: Frank Cass, Adams, Maurianne.
Edwards, — Amherst: University of Massachusetts Press, Anderson, Amanda. Ithaca and London: Cornell University Press, Austin, Alfred. Dickens, Charles. Faloon, W. Hammick, James T. London: Shaw and Sons, Houghton, Walter E. The Victorian Frame of Mind— New Haven: Yale Eprsonals Press, personalx Mill, Harriet Taylor.
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Basingstoke and London: Macmillan Press,78— Poovey, Mary. Chicago: University of Chicago Press, Roberts, Marie Mulvey, and Tamae Mizuta, eds. The Disempowered: Women and the Law. Shanley, Mary Lyndon. Feminism, Marriage, and the Law in Victorian England, — Princeton, N. Stephen, Sir James Fitzjames.
Valverde, Mariana. Walkowitz, Judith. Prostitution and Victorian Society.
Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, A discussion about lesbian couples raises a of questions. Women may be sexually involved with women and identify personalss heterosexual, bisexual, or lesbian or personala all labels about sexual orientation. Although sexual behavior and self-identity may or may not be congruent, the general public views lesbians as women who have sex with women, so that sexual activity is a critical part of personalx definition of who is a lesbian.
When couples cannot legally marry, sexual activity may assume importance in defining couple status. Yet women may have romantic and passionate relationships that do housewves involve genital sex. This chapter will examine the overlap among the concepts of sexual orientation, sexual activity, coupled relationships, and nonsexual relationships among lesbians. Portions of this manuscript were adapted from E.
Reprinted with the permission of Cambridge University Press. In the feminist periodical Off Our Backs published a review of the diaries of Anne Lister, an English scholar and traveler who wrote at the beginning of the nineteenth century Johnson This question has been particularly challenging for historians, as language about gender, sexual activity, sexual identity, friendship, relationship, and community has changed over the course of the century. What, however, is sexuality? Given its changing meaning over time, what is one looking for in records of the past?
Personald, in preindustrial America, what is now called sexuality was largely embedded within a reproductive language. The research on lesbians has not only been sparse, but there have been different if overlapping conceptualizations of who is included in studies of lesbians. The assumption underlying such recruitment methods has been that women who fill out surveys asking about lesbian issues are lesbians.
We examined the degree to which women who answered a Lesbian Wellness Survey are distributed on five aspects of lesbian sexuality and the coming-out process:. Statistical analyses found only mild but statistically hoisewives overlap among these five aspects, indicating that being perssonals is not a homogeneous experience. For example, women who rated themselves as exclusively lesbian were not necessarily out to lots of people or involved pesonals the lesbian community.
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